I thought marriage was suppose to be permanent

I was discussing this idea of marriage being a permanent commitment the other day when I had a thought. Ephesians 5:21-33 came to mind.

In this passage, we find instructions to husbands and wives what it takes for a marriage to work. The key appears to be found in the word “submit.” Verse 21 kicks off this passage with the command to submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.

Bottom line: It takes both people submitting to each other and to God.

I’ll bet you’re thinking that there is no way I am going to bow down and submit to anyone. But please hear me out. Also, please read the passage for yourself in its entirety.

Back to this word, submit. Most people, especially men, are very familiar with verses 22 and 23, where wives are told to submit to their husbands, and the husband is the head of the wife. But, men, did you actually read all of those two verses? Wives are told to submit to their husbands as to the Lord. And that the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church.

Now, a little further on, we see what all this really means. Guys, are you truly willing to love your wife as Christ loved the church? Are you willing to give up your life for her? You see, gentleman, you need to give your wife a reason to trust you enough that she will feel safe submitting to you.

Wives, can I ask, are you respecting your husband? Do you behave in a way that helps them to trust you so much that they are encouraged and willing to love you as Christ loved the church? Do you encourage him? Do you pray for him?

So we are back to this idea of submitting to each other. What exactly does this mean? Well, I’m glad you asked, because I have a few ideas. Pray for each other, and pray with each other. Communicate. This means talking to each other. Work together to come to solutions to problems. Be faithful. Lift each other up. Look for opportunities to show love. Encourage each other. Make your home a safe and loving environment.

Submitting to each other does NOT mean accepting abusive behaviors. Abuse, of any kind, should never be tolerated or accepted. The same goes for unfaithfulness. These are unacceptable behaviors. They have no place in any relationship. And they definitely have no place among God’s people. Nowhere in scripture do I find a command to remain in such situations.

Finally, in verse 33, we read that each man must LOVE his wife, and the wife must respect her husband. So give each other a reason to love and respect each other.

Bottom line: It takes both people submitting to each other and to God.

We are God’s Crown Jewels

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Summer of Psalms
Psalm 8

We are continuing our Summer of Psalms series. Something I like about the Psalms is there is a psalm for every emotion. The Psalms cover joy, praise, sadness, sorrow, anger, wonder, awe, victory, defeat, and everything in between. You name it there is pretty much a psalm that deals with it.

I want to share why this Psalm is special to me. It’s my Grandma Staten’s fault. I don’t remember exactly what year, but somewhere between 2nd and 5th, Grandma was in charge of vacation bible school. The theme song that year was This is My Father’s World, and creation was the overall theme. For the VBS program at the end of the week, Grandma wanted me to memorize and recite Psalm 8:3-9. I figured I could just read it. No one would know. The pulpit was large, and no one could see what was on it except the person standing there. Grandma and I argued even up to Sunday afternoon. Let me be clear, Grandma won the argument.

This is the first Bible verse I recall memorizing, other than John 3:16, or John 11:35 (Jesus wept).

Psalm 8 is a psalm of David. Depending on the Bible version the introduction to Psalms 8, 81, and 84 says that it is to be played on the gittith, which is derived from the Hebrew word “Gath”. Gath may refer to where the giant, Goliath was from, or a type of stringed instrument from Gath. Gath also signified a winepress in Hebrew. The psalms mentioning the gittith called for an animated music.

O Lord, our Lord, your majestic name fills the earth!
Your glory is higher than the heavens.
You have taught children and infants
to tell of your strength,
silencing your enemies
and all who oppose you.
When I look at the night sky and see the work of your fingers—
the moon and the stars you set in place—
what are mere mortals that you should think about them,
human beings that you should care for them?
Yet you made them only a little lower than God
and crowned them with glory and honor.
You gave them charge of everything you made,
putting all things under their authority—
the flocks and the herds
and all the wild animals,
the birds in the sky, the fish in the sea,
and everything that swims the ocean currents.
O Lord, our Lord, your majestic name fills the earth! (NLT)

Psalm 8 is often used to remind us of our duty to care for the earth, and all of God’s creation. Psalm 8 is one of several creation Psalms, including 19, 29, and 104. Bonheoffer says that Psalm 8 praises God’s name, and his gracious act to humans as the crown of His work. Today I want to focus on verses 3-5, and remind us that we are God’s crown jewel in His creation.

Bottom Line: We are the crown of God’s creation.

1) God created the entire universe.

Genesis chapters 1 and 2 tell us the story of creation. God created everything. The sun, moon, stars, plants, animals, fish, everything from the simplest element, and single celled organism, to the most complex molecules, and the most complex life. And at each stage, as He spoke each thing into existence, God called it good. The light was good. Land and seas were good. Plants were good. The sun, the moon, and the stars were declared good. Fish and birds were good. Finally, he created the animals and called it good.

There is a video on YouTube that helps explain the relative size of things in the universe. Click here to watch just the first 5 minutes. (Or watch the entire video, if you like.)

Do you feel insignificant now that you’ve watched the first five minutes of that video? Have you ever looked up at the night sky, and wondered what is out there? Does it ever make you feel small, and insignificant? I will admit to being just a little bit of a science fiction geek. And I sometimes wonder, did God create life on some distant planet, in another galaxy? Does it matter, though?

2) Even in our apparent insignificance, God has crowned us and given us authority.

The very last thing God created was humans. Genesis 1:26 tells us that God said “Let us make human beings in our image….” Only after creating humans, did God look at everything and call it very good. (Genesis 1:31) And the verses in between 26 to 31 tell us that He gave us authority. We have the authority to use the resources of His creation.

Verse 6 of this Psalm reminds us that He has put everything under our authority. That means ALL of creation. We are still exploring, and learning about just planet earth. And we have barely begun to explore just outside our own planet, and our galaxy.

Invitation:

Hebrews 2:6-8 refers back to Psalm 8:4-6.
And furthermore, it is not angels who will control the future world we are talking about. For in one place the Scriptures say,
“What are mere mortals that you should think about them,
or a son of man that you should care for him?
Yet for a little while you made them a little lower than the angels
and crowned them with glory and honor.
You gave them authority over all things.” (Hebrews 2:5-8a)

This is also a Christological Psalm, because it also refers to Christ, the Messiah. Hebrews 2 continues, beginning in the second part of verse 8 that we don’t yet see everything under our authority. But what we do see is Jesus Christ, who was briefly made a little lower that the angels, suffered and died for us, and he is now crowned with glory and honor.

We are so important to God, that even after we have sinned, deserving death, and permanent separation from God, He still made a way to redeem us, and He still calls us to Him today.

We truly are the crown jewel of His creation.

Do you know Him?

Journey to Justice – the woman accused of adultery

What comes to mind when you hear the word, “justice”?
We keep hearing the word “justice” thrown around, “social justice,” “criminal justice,” people demand “justice.” Usually what we really want is justice for everyone else, but mercy for ourselves.

What if I told you that God’s justice doesn’t always look like OUR justice?
Some quick background for our passage: The day before, the Pharisees and priests had sent the Temple guards to arrest Jesus, but they came back empty. The Pharisees and leading priests were angry. They are looking for anything, any way to trap Jesus.

Jesus returned to the Mount of Olives, but early the next morning he was back again at the Temple. A crowd soon gathered, and he sat down and taught them. As he was speaking, the teachers of religious law and the Pharisees brought a woman who had been caught in the act of adultery. They put her in front of the crowd.
“Teacher,” they said to Jesus, “this woman was caught in the act of adultery. The law of Moses says to stone her. What do you say?”
They were trying to trap him into saying something they could use against him, but Jesus stooped down and wrote in the dust with his finger. (John 8:1-6, NLT)

I wonder what Jesus wrote. He knew what they were scheming. Maybe He was writing, “Where’s George?” After all, IF she really was caught in the act, it takes two people to commit adultery. Where is the guy?

Let’s continue. After all, our lawyers and Pharisees are getting impatient now.

They kept demanding an answer, so he stood up again and said, “All right, but let the one who has never sinned throw the first stone!” Then he stooped down again and wrote in the dust. When the accusers heard this, they slipped away one by one, beginning with the oldest, until only Jesus was left in the middle of the crowd with the woman. (John 8:7-9, NLT)

Again, what was Jesus writing? Maybe He listed their names, starting with the oldest: Samuel, David, Jeremiah, Joshua…. Then next to their names, maybe He began listing their sins:
Samuel: lust, greed, lying
David: stealing, pornography
Jeremiah: adultery, gluttony
Joshua: drunk, gossip, fornication
And on down the list.

Then Jesus stood up again and said to the woman, “Where are your accusers? Didn’t even one of them condemn you?”
“No, Lord,” she said.
And Jesus said, “Neither do I. Go and sin no more.” (John 8:10-11, NLT)

Motive of the accusers

These religious lawyers and Pharisees were trying to trap Jesus. If Jesus had declared the woman innocent, the Pharisees could claim that Jesus didn’t really care about following the Law. If He declared that she was guilty, and pronounced the death penalty, or stoning, they could claim that Jesus was undermining Roman rule. They didn’t care how they did it, they just wanted to trap Jesus, because they didn’t like what he said.

They were so intent on trapping Jesus, they were willing to twist what the Law said. It’s also quite possible they were lying about catching the woman in the act.

What can we learn from this today? Even today we see people who are ready, eager even, to accuse someone of some heinous act. Politicians, and the media, have been calling out other politicians for years. Sometimes the accusations are factual, often not so much, or they are without context. We have seen this happen in the workplace, and sometimes even in our courts. Sometimes, even among fellow Believers. Before we make an accusation against someone, we need to be aware of our own true motives. Are we really seeking justice, or revenge?

What did the Law say?

Leviticus 20:10 reads: If a man commits adultery with his neighbor’s wife, both the man and the woman who have committed adultery must be put to death. (NLT)

And in Deuteronomy 22:22 we read: If a man is discovered committing adultery, both he and the woman must die. In this way, you will purge Israel of such evil. (NLT)

Notice first that BOTH guilty parties are to be put to death. Not just the woman. Also, stoning is not even mentioned here. Stoning is mentioned for very specific instances, but not in the case of adultery.

But twisting the Law, and God’s Word to suit one’s own agenda is really nothing new. It shouldn’t even come as a surprise. In Genesis 2:16 God had told Adam that he could eat the fruit of every tree in the garden, except one: the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. But when satan showed up as a snake, to tempt Eve, the first thing he did was to twist God’s words. In 3:1 the snake asks if God really said that they couldn’t eat the fruit of ANY of the trees in the garden.

It is definitely NOT God’s justice we are seeking when we twist the law, or God’s words, or twist facts.

Jesus’s response

To the accusers – Jesus knew what was in their hearts. He had absolutely no desire to participate in their nasty scheme. I am pretty certain that His response was not what anyone expected. It almost looks like Jesus gives the Pharisees what they want. After all, the law only required that the facts be established by two or three witnesses (Deuteronomy 19:15). He even appeared to accept their stated method of punishment. BUT, He threw a curveball into their scheme. He said that the first stone must be thrown by someone who had never sinned. Even the accusers knew that they couldn’t claim to be sinless. And one by one they left. They were looking only to condemn. I doubt that mercy was even a consideration for them.

To the accused woman – This woman seems to have been a minor part of the story. I am almost certain that to her, she was, or should have been, the central character. After all, she was the one accused, and facing death by stoning. She wasn’t even given a chance to declare her innocence; or if she was guilty, to plead for mercy.

FINALLY, Jesus looks at her, stands up, and asks “Where are your accusers? Didn’t even one of them condemn you?” And she says, “No, Lord.” Jesus replies that He also will not condemn her. And He tells her to go, and don’t sin anymore. Jesus knew her heart as well as He knew the hearts of her accusers.

God’s justice is tempered with mercy.

Now, what comes to mind when you hear the word, “justice”?

Bottom Line: Because of Christ, we can trust God’s justice.

Are we Listening?

Something strange happened today. When I stopped to get fuel, and take my 30 minute break, I met another driver. Nothing unusual about that, as I meet people all the time. But meeting this driver started as simply a friendly greeting in passing, as I was walking back to my truck, with my somewhat freshly made truckstop cheeseburger.

As I continued toward my truck, I got just a few steps away when I could almost hear a voice telling me to turn around, and go back and offer to pray with that driver. I have to admit, I hesitated. And I even argued. I mean, God just doesn’t speak to me that way. Sure, there have been other times I felt like God might be telling me something, and I’ve shrugged it off. But this was different. I tried telling myself this was crazy. I just could not shake the feeling that I needed to pray with this person. I had this sense that how I choose to respond was extremely important, in ways that I honestly don’t fully comprehend.

So, I said “OK, God. I think I may be going nuts, but, I’ll try this.” I turned around and walked back to this other driver, who was still outside her truck, adding coolant. As I approached, I said simply, “Please don’t think I’m nuts, but God told me to come back and offer to pray with you.” As I prayed with Julianne, I learned that she had simply needed a prayer partner today.

Then we parted ways, and I got back into my truck, started it, and started driving. As I’m pulling out of the truckstop, I have the radio on, and one of those radio preachers comes on. He started with a comment about how people say God doesn’t talk to us like He had in the past. The next thing he says is that maybe God has been talking to us, we just haven’t been listening like people did in the past. After hearing this, I couldn’t help but wonder about times in the past when I thought God might be telling me to do something, but I brushed it aside, because, “God never speaks to me that way.” Maybe God really was speaking those times, but I wasn’t listening. What about you? Are you listening?

Thankful

Today we pause to give thanks. So, what am I thankful for? I am thankful for grandparents who raised their children in the church and who modeled lifestyles of service and worship. I am thankful for parents who continued to model the same lifestyle, and who raised my brothers and me in church. I am thankful for my children and my grandchildren, and I pray that I am continuing the legacy left by me parents and grandparents. I am thankful for my brothers and sister who pray for my children and me, and who encourage me, and even challenge me when I may post something questionable. I am thankful for my extended family, aunts, uncles, and cousins, and for their prayers and encouragement. I am thankful for faithful friends, who continue to stand by me, encourage me, and pray for me and with me. I am thankful for those churches I have had the privilege of visiting over the past seven months who are open and inviting to visitors, and for those brothers and sisters in Christ who, even though they don’t know me, have extended a hand or hug of friendship and fellowship.

I am thankful for those who have served and who are still serving our country in the military, be it active, reserve, or national guard. I am thankful for those who serve in public safety: police, fire and EMS, as well as the many medical professionals who are taking care of patients, even on a holiday.

Most of all, I am thankful for a God who loves us so much that He gave His only son. That Son gave up his own glory, and brought himself to down to our level and gave His own life to pay the required penalty for our sins so that we may have eternal life with Him. I am thankful for a Savior who not only accepts me as I am, but through the Holy Spirit, works in my life to change me into what He desires. A God, who even when I screw up, is there, arms outstretched, pleading and ready to take me back. Who, even when depression sets in is right there to remind me that I am His. When experiencing even the deepest of sorrows He gives the comfort of His Holy Spirit. Even when I have been ready to give up on myself, He never gives up on me. When the accuser brings up past sins and mistakes, my Heavenly Father says, “What sin? What mistakes? My child, I not only forgave them, I have forgotten them. The slate is clean. Your future is with me.”

For all this and so much more that I just don’t have words to express, thank you, Lord.

What are you thankful for today?

Confession of an adulterous, murdering king

Hi. I have been known by many titles: shepherd, warrior, king, man after God’s own heart. Truth be told, though, the labels adulterer, thief and murderer also described me. I definitely wasn’t always good at seeking after God’s heart. In fact, as much as I wanted to please God, I often lived to please myself.

In fact, I have to confess what may be my biggest indiscretion. One evening I was up on the roof of my palace and I glanced next door and saw the most gorgeous woman I have ever seen, bathing. Well, instead of being a gentleman and thinking with my brain, and my heart, I allowed myself to become a walking hormone. Once she caught my eye, I was hooked. I mean, in my defense, she was H-O-T, HOT. I knew I should have looked away and not looked back, but I couldn’t help myself. Honestly, if I had been out on the battlefield with my army, as I should have, I would not have found myself in this predicament, but my advisors assured me that my presence wasn’t needed. So I stayed behind. And at that moment, I was very happy that I had stayed at the palace.

Well, anyway, I’m just staring, watching this gorgeous babe. Even if it had been available, she did not need any type of plastic surgery. Like far too many guys, I quit thinking with my brain. I think all the blood rushed away from my brain, honestly. I just had have her. I saw her and I knew what I wanted. I just had to be with her. So I asked some of the palace staff about her. To be honest, I really don’t think I paid attention to anything other than her name, Bathsheba. Beautiful, gorgeous, lovely Bathsheba. I think someone might have said something about her being married, but I really wasn’t paying attention to that part. Nor did I really care. I sent for her immediately.

Well, she came to the palace and I wined her and dined her. And yep, you guessed it, we spent the night together. What a night. Well in the morning, she went back to her place, and I was just on cloud nine, and all was well. And, I was pretty sure I had gotten away with it. That is, until she sent word several days later that she was pregnant.

Pregnant?! How in the world did that happen? Oh no! And there was definitely no way I could pull a Bill Clinton, and claim “I did not have sexual relations with that woman.” My deed was about to be exposed. Man I couldn’t let that happen. After all I’m the king. I can’t even just marry her, because she’s already married; to one of my most loyal warriors?! Yep, she was the wife of one of my most trusted and faithful warriors, Uriah, the Hittite. I had to think, and fast.

So, I did what any smart leader in my position would do. I decided a plan that was fool proof. I figured all I needed was for Uriah to spend some quality time with his wife and, no more problem. In fact, I would be able to congratulate Uriah on the birth of his baby. So, I sent for Uriah, under the pretense of wanting him to bring me word from the battlefield. When he arrived I listened carefully to his report. The very next thing I did was to send him home. Whew, problem solved, right? Well, I thought so, until the next morning. Remember how I said he was one of my most loyal warriors? Yeah, he was too loyal. He slept in the palace courtyard by the gate. I was like, you’ve got to be kidding me. So I ordered him to go home and sleep with his wife, and enjoy her company. I even tried getting him drunk. Even drunk he was loyal to me. Man, what is wrong with him? If I had been away from my wife that long a team of wild horses couldn’t have kept me away from her. But not Uriah. He insisted that as long as the ark and the armies of Israel and Judah were sleeping in tents in the field, that he would never go to his own home and sleep with his wife. This guy was just too loyal.

Well, I had to think quick, again. So I relented, and sent him back to the front. But I included a note to my commander, Joab. I told Joab to put Uriah at the front, where the fighting would be the most fierce, and to suddenly pull back so that Uriah would be killed.

Joab did as I commanded. Unfortunately, Uriah wasn’t the only one killed. I actually lost several good men that day. But most importantly, my secret was now safe. As soon as she was done mourning, I married Bathsheba. Shortly after we were married, she gave birth to our son. Wow, now I was lucky enough to be married to the most gorgeous woman in the world, and she gave me a son. And best of all, no one would ever know what had really happened.

Not. So. Fast. You see, not long after our son was born, the prophet, Nathan, showed up. He told me about a rich farmer who had plenty of land, crops, flocks and herds. This rich farmer had a neighbor who was really poor. The poor man had one lamb, that was really more like a pet. Actually, it was more like a beloved member of the poor man’s family. Some of you can relate, I’m sure. I’ve seen how some people treat their pets like a member of the family. I mean this man even let the lamb eat from his own plate.

Well, it seems that one day this rich farmer wanted to throw a banquet for a guest, but he didn’t want to use an animal from his own flock or herd. So he took the poor man’s lamb, killed it and prepared and served it to his guest. I was so furious when I heard this that I immediately declared that the rich man deserved to die. Then Nathan looked me in the eyes and he proclaimed “You are that man!”

What?! Nathan proceeded to remind me of all the Lord had given me. And I stole another man’s wife, to satisfy my own lust. Then, to hide my sin I murdered him.  When I confessed, Nathan told me the Lord had forgiven me, and that I would not die. But my son whom Bathsheba had given birth to would die.

Soon after Nathan left our son fell deathly ill. I prayed, and fasted, and begged God to spare our son. I knew how much his mother loved him, and my heart ached for her too. In spite of all of my begging and pleading, God carried out His judgement. My sin and my attempts to cover it up had caused several deaths, and much grieving. Oh, how I suddenly wished I could undo my sin. And the problems my family suffered because of my own sin. My family was in turmoil the rest of my days. It is not a pleasant story at all. One of my sons raped his sister, and another tried to steal my throne. It’s pretty difficult, if not downright impossible to tell your children how to behave and serve the Lord when you, their father, don’t live and act as you know you’re suppose to.

There have been attempts by many to try lessen my guilt of my sin of lust. In fact one Jewish tradition has it that what really happened that day on the roof was that Satan took the form of a bird and in my attempt to kill the bird, I missed and knocked over the privacy screen that had been set up. Others have tried to say that Bathsheba should have refused. But folks, I am here to tell you that I alone am responsible for my sin. I didn’t have to take that second look. I didn’t have to continue to stare and lust and scheme. I alone sent for her. I alone am responsible. Not to mention, would you have had the courage to tell the king “No”? And I alone plotted the murder of a most trusted servant, which also took the lives of several other good men.

I was an adulterer, a thief, and a murderer. But the most amazing thing is that there was still hope. When I repented, God forgave me. And in spite of my sin, and because of my repentance, God still used my relationship with Bathsheba for his glory. She later gave birth to my son, Solomon. He was the one the Lord had chosen to succeed me, and to build His temple.

It’s amazing how the Lord works. Even the most wicked can be redeemed, if only we repent and commit to following His way. If God could forgive my sin, then he will forgive any sin. All you have to do is repent and commit to following His commands.

To be sure, our actions do have natural consequences, and God seldom, if ever, relieves us of those consequences. But He does, when we repent, and follow Him, relieve us of the ultimate consequence of sin…an eternity in hell. Instead, because His Son, Jesus, paid the price of our sin by His death on the cross our sins are forgiven. Of course, His resurrection also gives us the assurance and hope of eternal life. We are now joint heirs with Christ. We are adopted as sons and daughters of the King. The Creator of the universe is our father. So please, leave your sin behind. Turn and follow after Christ. There is new life in Him. He has promised to forgive us, of only we confess sins to Him. And He’ll give us His Holy Spirit to guide us, and to help lead us away from temptation. Temptation will always find us as some point. But God gives us His Holy Spirit to show us a way out. And to show us the way back when we do sin.

How does your garden grow?

For everything there is a season,
a time for every activity under heaven.
A time to be born and a time to die.
A time to plant and a time to harvest. (Ecclesiastes 3:1-2, NLTse)
But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives:love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self- control. (Galations 5:22-23, NLT)

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In March, I moved into a second floor apartment that has a southern facing balcony. I decided it was the perfect time to try my hand at container gardening. I went out and bought a seed starting kit that contained seeds for cucumbers, tomatoes, peppers and lettuce. In April I started the seeds indoors, and it took until almost June before they were ready to be put outside. Now at this point, for those who don’t know me well, I should probably point out that God has not blessed me with an abundance of patience (hereafter referred to as “that p word”).

My lettuce never did develop into heads, although, according to the package it was suppose to be a head variety.  I finally harvested the leaves a few weeks ago and have given up on growing more lettuce this year.

One of my cucumber plants has finally produced about six or seven cucumbers over the last several weeks. The other one has given me one or two, with little sign of continuing. But I am working on being that “p” word. I do see a few beginning cucumbers, so I’m praying that at least one of them will continue.

My pepper plants are finally producing peppers that I think I will be able to start harvesting in the next few days. And it appears that they will be producing for a while longer.

And my two beefsteak tomato plants? Well, so far each plant has one small green tomato. But they also have a lot more blossoms, so I am hopeful of more to come.

In mid to late May, I also decided to try to grow jalapeno peppers and cherry tomatoes. Again, I started from seeds. They actually seem to have grown and begin producing a little bit faster. I put the cherry tomato plant into a hanging planter that grows upside down and put the jalapeno plants into regular pots, one of which has two plants the other just a single plant. I actually have several cherry tomatoes, though they are still green, and several jalapenos already. Granted, none of them are ready to be harvested yet, but those plants do seem to have produced faster than any of the others.

I have, however begun to learn a few things from this gardening adventure. (These are not in any order, other than as they have occurred to me as I write this):

First, when starting from seeds you really want to begin several weeks before you intend to move the plants outside, if you intend to begin harvesting earlier in the summer.

Second, research a little bit and find out how much space each plant needs. I screwed up and tried growing two cucumber plants in the same container. I did the same thing with the tomato plants. I was able to separate the cucumber plants into their own container, but transplanting them when I did almost killed them both. The root systems of the tomato plants are so intertwined, and after almost losing both cucumber plants, I thought it best to leave them this year. But next year, they will be grown in separate containers.

Third, the harvest does eventually begin. Everything in it’s season.

Finally, I think I am beginning to grasp a couple things that apply to our spiritual lives. As I was picking a couple cucumbers the other day, and noticing that the other plants were finally beginning to produce, I was reminded of the above verses, as well as John 15. The produce will come in it’s time. I have been tempted several times to give up, but with more of that “p” word than I usually have, a commitment to care for my plants, a willingness to learn, and allowing God to do His part, I am beginning to enjoy the fruit of my labor.  The spiritual life also requires much more of that “p” word than many of us care to think about, a willingness to learn, caring and nurturing, and allowing God to do His work in His way and in His time. This will produce a harvest in our own lives. We will also be privileged to participate in various ways of planting, watering, tending to, and eventually to reaping harvests of others for Christ. We can’t rush the producing of the fruit, or the harvest. We have to allow ourselves, and others the grace to grow as directed by God. And sometimes, as I have been reminded over the past year or so, we may even have to tolerate the spreading of excess fertilizer by those who just don’t know any better. And when that happens, just remember, that fertilizer can lead to a better harvest.

The price of infidelity

Have you ever wondered how God feels when we reject Him? Or maybe even worse, when we who profess to be his people turn away from Him? One day I realized I have probably felt, as close as humanly possible, the pain that He feels when we are unfaithful to Him.

Being rejected by people is painful enough. Being rejected by people you love is even worse. But what about the rejection a spouse? Can you imagine the pain of that type of rejection and insult. Sadly, there are many of us who have experienced that pain. Now, please understand, I am not sharing this to elicit pity for myself or any other person who has experienced the pain of marital unfaithfulness. I simply believe that God has allowed me to use my experience to understand how much He truly loves us and desires a relationship with us.

It has been several years since I divorced my ex-wife. But I still remember clearly the pain that I felt when I first suspected she was cheating, as well as that when I found out for certain. It was actually the same feeling for me, but the difference was the intensity of the physical and emotionoal response.

Sadly, there are others who have experienced this pain, and their experiences are no doubt different. But I think we would all agree that there is almost nothing as painful as infidelity.

I’ll try to describe own pain. First there was this feeling in the pit of my stomach that something wasn’t quite right. Most of us have heard the term “butterflies in the stomach,” I’m sure. Well in the case of infidelity, for me, it felt like blenders, or electric mixers had been turned on inside my stomach and were turning it inside out. Then there’s the rush of adrenaline, due, no doubt, to the human bodies built in “fight or flight” response. Of course that rush of adrenaline leads to many other physical responses. Then there is the sudden stabbing pain I felt in my heart and in my spirit. Finally a type of physical and emotional fatigue set in. The woman to whom I had pledged my love, and had given my heart had betrayed me. It crushed my spirit. It truly hurt me to the core.

Now I am not naive enough to think that any of the pain we experience comes anywhere close to the pain that God feels when we reject or walk away from Him. I can only imagine that the pain our sin causes Him is a million times worse.

Remember when I said above that there is almost nothing as painful as infidelity? Well there is a pain that is indescribably worse; there is the pain of having your child ripped away. I have experienced the pain of having my children ripped away from me. I cannot begin to describe that pain. As painful as having my children ripped from the safety of my home and arms was, the only thing I imagine can be more painful is losing my child to death.

Now I have not experienced that pain caused by the death of one of my children. And my heart goes out to those who have. But I also know that our Heavenly Father has experienced both of the pains I have experienced, as well as the pain of a Son’s death.

There is a reason that at times He refers to Israel as a wayward wife who has left her first love. There is a reason that our relationship to Christ is described in terms of marriage. God desires an intimate relationship with us, his people. We were created for that relationship and fellowship with Him. But too often we reject Him. Even worse, we often, even after we turn to Him, return to satisfying our selfish desires instead of fulfilling our vow to God. We caused Him to experience the pain of having an unfaithful spouse. Our sin caused Him to experience the pain of losing His only Son, even to the point of death. The death of a mere human could never satisfy the debt of our sin. So the Son, Jesus Christ, stepped forward.

I can only imagine that the conversation went something like this:
The Son said, “I’ll go. I will give up my own glory, and live among them. I will show them the way to live. I will be their example. Finally, I will pay the penalty for their sin. I will even suffer the indignity and humiliation of death on a cross.”
And the Father replied, “my Son, go. Stay in constant communion with me, so that my power will remain in you that you may bring me glory. Your death will satisfy the penalty for their sin. As you take their sin upon yourself on that cross I will have to look away, because I cannot look at sin. But after three days I will raise you back to life, and you will again be glorified. Your resurrection will defeat death once and for all. After you return to my side I will send my Holy Spirit to comfort and guide them. They will again be capable of enjoying eternal fellowship with us.”

So I have just two questions:
If you have not yet accepted Christ as Lord and Savior, will you now turn from your sin and accept the free gift He has given, or will you continue to reject Him.

If you have previously accepted Christ as Lord and Savior, but have since turned away, will you return to One who loves you to the point He gave up His own life for you; or will you continue in your infidelity?

God knows my name is Carl, and I am His child. He is more than able to use me.

First, thank you for your prayers. I’m not really big on sharing my feelings, but I also needed to let some things out. This seemed like a fairly healthy way to release it all. I actually am often guilty of stuffing my feelings and pain. The problem with that is that the things that get stuffed eventually build up pressure until it all just explodes out, often hurting those we love, as well as other innocent bystanders. Not to mention the damage done to the one who does the stuffing. By God’s grace, that is not who I am any more.

The title is in reference to the three songs that appear at the end. When I wrote my prayer request I was feeling defeated. I looked in the mirror and all I saw was a loser. It didn’t help that satan, through others, and even in my own mind, was reminding me of all my failures. I was beginning  to believe the names he was giving me: loser, moron, bad father, felon, defeated, fat, worthless, and the list goes on. Some of you reading this may be experiencing this same problem right now. The names that satan is trying to call you by, and the tactics he is using may be different. But his end goal is the same; to make you believe that God doesn’t really want you, that you are unworthy of God’s love. But, the thing is those are lies.

The first verse many of us ever memorized tells us just how much God loves us. John 3:16 tells us that God’s love for us is so great that he gave up His only Son in order to save us. In spite of all we have done to push Him away, He still loves us. He still wants a relationship with us. To be brutally honest, there is nothing any of us can do to be worthy of the love and forgiveness God has offered us. But because of Christ’s sacrifice on the cross, and His resurrection when we accept Him as Savior and Lord all of those things we once were guilty of are wiped away. I know many may have heard this before, and it may be a bit cliché, but now when satan brings up our past faults and sins, instead of letting him remind us of our past, remind him of his future.

Because of God’s amazing love and mercy I don’t  have to accept the false names satan wants to call me by. I don’t have to accept the false labels that others may try to force upon me. God has used the following songs to speak to me this weekend, and to remind me of my worth in His eyes. The first song listed kept playing over in my mind after I posted my prayer request Thursday night; especially the chorus and the second verse.

The last two songs were sung in the church service that I attended Sunday. They also fit perfectly with the pastor’s sermon. His sermon was based on John 6, the feeding of the five thousand. Here were his main points: 1) NOTHING and NO ONE is inadequate in the hands of Jesus. 2) Jesus often uses UNLIKELY sources to perform miracles. 3) NEVER waste a miracle. The pastor also asked a few questions to think about. what if the little boy had been a typical kid and been selfish? How many miracles are unperformed because we are selfish?  And what happened to the leftovers?

I have a fourth question: What if Andrew had been the typical adult, and been already totally convinced that the little boy had nothing to offer? Just something to ponder next time we’re tempted to judge someone else as unworthy or as having nothing to offer.

By the way: Hi. My name is Carl. I’m a Child of God, and He is more than able to accomplish His will in me and through me. And guess what else: He actually knows my name.

Hello My Name Is (by Matthew West)
Chorus: Hello, my name is child of the one true King I’ve been saved, I’ve been changed, and I have been set free “Amazing Grace” is the song I sing Hello, my name is child of the one true King

Verse 2: I am no longer defined By all the wreckage behind. The one who makes all things new Has proven it’s true Just take a look at my life

He Is Able (by Henry Smith)
He is able, more than able To accomplish what concerns me today. He is able, more than able To handle anything that come my way. He is able, more than able To do much more than I could ever dream, He is able, more than able To make me what He wants me to be.

He Knows My Name (by Tommy Walker)
Verse 1:
I have a maker he formed my heart,
before even time began
My life was in his hands

Chorus:
He knows my name He knows my every thought,
He sees each tear that falls and hears me when I call

Verse 2:
I have a father, he calls me his own
He’ll never leave me,
No matter where I go

My Challenge

I admit to cheating for this first post. The following was first posted in January to my status on Facebook. However, my initial goal is to simply get started. Over the next several months I plan to begin using this forum for everything from my required journaling for classes to sermon ideas, to random thoughts, with the ultimate goal being to remind me to keep my focus on Christ.

I have a challenge for the Church, and all those who profess the name of Christ. My challenge is this… Instead of focusing our blame for sin and our nation’s decline on the sins of others, spreading emails and FB posts that blame our government leaders, or other religions, or people who do not accept the truth of God’s Word; How about instead focusing our attention and energy on something radically different… PRAYER. Yes, many of our leaders are screwing things up, and there are groups who have come out strong against Christ and His Word. But I do not believe that focusing our attention on them and arguing with or against them is doing much good. Because I believe that we have forgotten about prayer, and repenting of our own sins.

In 2 Chronicles 7:14 God clearly commands us to pray: At times I might shut up the heavens so that no rain falls, or command grasshoppers to devour your crops, or send plagues among you. Then if my people who are called by my name will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, I will hear from heaven and will forgive their sins and restore their land. (2 Chronicles 7:13-14 (NLT)) And Paul’s first letter to Timothy tells us to pray for all, including those in authority: I urge you, first of all, to pray for all people. Ask God to help them; intercede on their behalf, and give thanks for them. Pray this way for kings and all who are in authority so that we can live peaceful and quiet lives marked by godliness and dignity. This is good and pleases God our Savior, who wants everyone to be saved and to understand the truth. For there is only one God and one Mediator who can reconcile God and humanity—the man Christ Jesus. He gave his life to purchase freedom for everyone. (1 Timothy 2:1-6a (NLT))

While I admit I have not gone through line by line of the Bible, I have done a thorough enough search that I believe that I can honestly say that nowhere are we commanded to complain about other people to God. Nor are we told to complain about our government. Complaining will not change things. But prayer… prayer is the most powerful weapon we have in our arsenal against the Satan. Our war is not with men and women, but it is a spiritual war. We cannot win this war by complaining, and finger pointing, or judging. We who proclaim the name of Christ know that the victory has already been won through Christ’s death and resurrection. So let’s re-learn to fight this war like men and women of God, on our knees with holy hands lifted to God.